I wrote this letter to Margaret last year. She hasn't changed much, although her preferred cereal is now Trix and her favorite princess is Sleeping Beauty. Little Miss Viola plays at Margaret's feet everyday, her eyes follow her big sisters every move, it is complete adoration. I think (for awhile at least, until she discovers she can have her own) Margaret's dreams will be Viola's, too. So now this letter is to both of my little princesses.
This morning you woke up begging for cereal and Cinderella. Lately, this is your favorite pairing. You prefer Life cereal, but will also tolerate Cheerio's.There is, however, no substitute for Cinderella. I understand your love. She is pretty, there are talking mice involved and she gets to wear a big beautiful dress.
Darling, You are only 23 months old and already your whole life is about a big dress and a happy ending. I am not sure that I could have prevented this. People can make a case about the socialization of genders, about misplaced priorities, about avoiding pink, prettiness and princesses. They seem to think that what you are can be avoided by the presence of a few unisex parenting techniques. They are all wrong, of course. You were born looking for a happy ending. Cinderella is just a manifestation of a dream you already have. I want you to know that it is alright to think of the big dress and the big day and the prince that will meet you there. I will wish and hope and dream right along with you.
Just a little favor, for me? Don't bide time until the day you wear the big dress. There is so much to do. Know who you are. You are an eternal daughter of an eternal God. This connection is literal and your lovely soul holds within it a spark of the divine. Know your Savior. Understand your unique abilities. There is no one like you, and no one that can do what YOU can do. Develop your talents, strengthen your weaknesses. You were sent here to perform a great work. You must ready yourself. Have ambition. Get an education. This world is yours to know, understand and make better. Get dirty and make a few mistakes. Find the joy in being you. Kiss a few boys. Call me crying when they weren't the right one. I promise to cry with you. Make the Word of God an integral part of who you are. Poetry and inspiration will follow. Understand it isn't a matter of who will have you, but rather, who deserves you.
And when you are ready, you will meet someone who is worthy of you, my little Margaret pie. He will be lovely and handsome. He will open doors for you and know your favorite flower. He will understand your dreams and put them before his own. You will be happy. You will kiss and dance and sing and love. You will wear that big dress on that big day and dance with your Prince. Don't worry. It isn't the happy ending of anything. It is a joyous beginning. A new start in the adventure you were born to have.
I have loved my happy beginning, my adventure in love, purple walls and burnt dinners. How could I not? You are a part of it.